As you go up the ladder, you often have to change peer-friend relations to manager-subordinate relations… According to a recent Gallup poll, 75% of workers who left their jobs did so because of their bosses, not the position itself. Hence, the stakes are high for you, and you don’t want your peer-friends to become unfriendly.

It’s nearly impossible to fix a situation when there’s a big misalignment in values because the other parties can’t possibly comprehend your values in the same way that you can’t comprehend theirs. Getting people to change is hard, so you need a different approach.