As you go up the ladder, you often have to change peer-friend relations to manager-subordinate relations… According to a recent Gallup poll, 75% of workers who left their jobs did so because of their bosses, not the position itself. Hence, the stakes are high for you, and you don’t want your peer-friends to become unfriendly.
For a first-time manager managing others can be difficult because how she got to a managerial position was based on managing herself to achieve individual excellence. However, what is required of her now is team excellence: she has to manage a set of people to perform to excellence. The transition from me- to we-focused isn’t natural for everyone.
It’s nearly impossible to fix a situation when there’s a big misalignment in values because the other parties can’t possibly comprehend your values in the same way that you can’t comprehend theirs. Getting people to change is hard, so you need a different approach.
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